We can only meet someone as deeply as we have met ourselves. I must have read a sentence similar to that somewhere years ago and if you have read any of my writing, attended any of my courses or simply had a conversation with me, you will know that this sentiment runs through all of my work and personal life.
With meeting ourselves deeply, comes the ability to model the ‘how’. Time and time again, I work with front line practitioners who struggle to meet their own needs in this context. Sometimes, this is because they are working in environments that are toxic, have resistance to understanding that we bring ourselves into work or has a culture of ‘stress equals working hard’. Sometimes meeting our needs is lost in old narratives from childhood about what we deserve. Sometimes, it is lost in trauma and we need active guidance and relational connection to support us in what might be a gigantic life shift.
Understanding the complexities of how destructive it can be to continue operating without a better understanding of yourself, your team, your organisation in turn helps us to be better practitioners. We cannot go on a journey with someone who we are meant to be helping unless we are prepared to take that road ourselves. Committing to self/collective care supports those we are helping and done together, becomes a radical act of resistance against staying in the same place. In other words, in our wellness, we can truly support others in theirs which can then meaningfully support trauma recovery.
The opposite of this is berating someone for not taking care of themselves, for repeating patterns that are destructive and for engaging in risky behaviours dumping all the responsibility upon them.
With this in mind I have written a specific training event that will support you whether you attend for yourself, for your team or to further support the people you are helping right now. With over 30 years working in and around Education and Social Work, I also trained and qualified as a Holistic Health Therapist in 2005. I have a recovery journey that started in 1990 which resulted in daily self-care practices that I rely upon for good mental health and well being.
If you’d like to learn more then book your Connection Pass here to Trauma Informed Interpersonal and Organisational Self/Collective Care and join me on the 8th June.